An interesting question.

Category: Dating and Relationships

Post 1 by jessmonsilva (Taking over the boards, one topic at a time.) on Monday, 12-Sep-2005 4:09:33

Hey guys this is more directed toward you, but girls you can answer too if you feel your oppinion fits. So guys, say you meet a bisexual girl, you want to date her but the fact that she is bi is something you want to take into consideration. So finally, you say yes, would you want her to stop being with women, and specifically be devoted to you, or would you not mind that fact that she slept with women as well as dated a man.

Post 2 by PorkInCider (Wind assisted.) on Monday, 12-Sep-2005 5:13:42

I think I'd want her to stop dating other women. I wouldn't mind so much that she had done, but I'd want her to be with me alone, not with anyone else. I'm not even sure I'd want her to date other women if she was prepared to involve me. lol It's supposed to be every man's dream, but I'm not yet convinced that I would be into the threesome thing.

Post 3 by The Roman Battle Mask (Making great use of my Employer's time.) on Monday, 12-Sep-2005 6:46:15

Sex of the person shouldn't matter, if you want me and a girl, that means you can't be faithful to me. Just because it doesn't have a dick doesn't make it right. If you can double dip and have more then just me then I should be able to pick up what ever guy or girl I want, fair's fair, either both have multiple partners or neither do.

Post 4 by bermuda-triangulese (Help me, I'm stuck to my chair!) on Monday, 12-Sep-2005 8:32:22

agreed bg, I'm fine wih multiple partners but it has to be both parties

Post 5 by jessmonsilva (Taking over the boards, one topic at a time.) on Monday, 12-Sep-2005 8:54:30

I do agree with Blindguy on this one, it makes perfect sense. Thanks guys.

Post 6 by Ukulele<3 (Try me... You know you want to.) on Monday, 12-Sep-2005 9:18:20

lol!!! I just had to say, blindguy, I agree whole-heartedly with what you just said!!! However, if I was with a man who was bi, I wouldn't want to go through that situation of having to share him.
*sexy*

Post 7 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Monday, 12-Sep-2005 12:17:15

Who is to say she would automatically cheat just because she is bi..I would take a chance but if she couldn't be faithful then I'd end it as I am familiar with the pain of this scenario.

Post 8 by Witchcraft (Account disabled) on Wednesday, 14-Sep-2005 4:02:08

I'd have to say it can go either way. I think what's fair for one is fair for the other. So, guess I too am agreeing with BG. But ultimately it's up to both parties in a relationship what works for them. And for others to judge on what a couple has found to work is wrong. *smile*

Post 9 by sugar (Entertain me. I dare you.) on Wednesday, 14-Sep-2005 5:16:19

Agreed, cheating is cheating, end of story. Interesting though, how a lot of guys don't mind, even quite like the thought of their girlfriends being bi, but girls don't think the same when it comes to guys...

Post 10 by rdfreak (THE ONE AND ONLY TRUE-BLUE KANGA-KICKIN AUSIE) on Wednesday, 14-Sep-2005 5:38:11

yes agreed. cheating would become an issue definitely. Incidently in my situation I'm bi but it doesn't change anything in regards to how guys have felt for me. I can only be with one at a time anyway Lol!

Post 11 by jessmonsilva (Taking over the boards, one topic at a time.) on Wednesday, 14-Sep-2005 6:17:09

It's funny you even mentioned that sugar, cuz some guys actually do mind. For instance my current boyfriend and I were talking about this, and he actually said that while I was with him he wanted me to give up women and just be with him, so it is just interesting how some guys work, anyway with that being said, if a bisexual chick were to go sleep with someone else, I would not get mad at a man if he did the same thing, because like it or not, you guys are right, it still is cheating, end of story.

Post 12 by laced-unlaced (Account disabled) on Thursday, 15-Sep-2005 14:22:42

end of story! i wouldn't mind multiple rilationchips but i wouldn't like her to spend to much time with women. if she doson't have the time for me then just don't bother.

Post 13 by melodica (Account disabled) on Thursday, 15-Sep-2005 15:38:54

I would not mind that my partner was bisexual. I'm very open to it. I would try and make a threesome work so that we were all a healthy relationship not just sexually but mentally and spiritually as well.

Post 14 by The Roman Battle Mask (Making great use of my Employer's time.) on Thursday, 15-Sep-2005 17:15:33

A threesum most likely would lead to very bad things. The way I see it is you are either devoted totally to each other, or swingers, I never see middle ground working.

Post 15 by maddog (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Thursday, 15-Sep-2005 19:55:02

I'm in total agreement here! If I were dating someone who was bisexual, I'd expect her to give up women.

Post 16 by Chris N (I just keep on posting!) on Friday, 16-Sep-2005 7:27:40

My initial reaction is that bisexuality is well and good, but that you should stick to one partner at a time. If this was an issue, as with most other things, I'd be open to discussion.

Post 17 by Witchcraft (Account disabled) on Friday, 16-Sep-2005 8:02:37

I think 3somes can work depending on all people involved. I won't say nothing can ever work...

Post 18 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Saturday, 17-Sep-2005 11:32:51

i think people should stick with one person at a time, i wouldn't feel comfortable if i found out a girl was cheating on me. if she doesn't even respect/love herself, she can't do either for me.

Post 19 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Saturday, 17-Sep-2005 11:36:02

Exactly that kind of nonsense leads to heartache

Post 20 by Witchcraft (Account disabled) on Sunday, 18-Sep-2005 3:31:24

What may not work for some may work for others. No relationship should be judged on the simple basis that it doesn't work for you personally. That is precisely why in most states homosexuals getting married is not allowed. Because the majority does not feel or admit that it could work for them, so, to them it's wrong...

Post 21 by guitargod1 (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Tuesday, 21-Feb-2006 23:24:14

If I was dating a bi girl, which I have done in the past, and she wanted a 3 sum with another girl and myself, I might do it. however, I wouldn't want her going behind my back and doing things with other people, male or female.

Post 22 by The Luggage (Zone BBS Addict) on Thursday, 23-Feb-2006 15:15:33

Post 23 by Liz (The Original) on Thursday, 23-Feb-2006 15:28:49

Hmm, a threesome? NO way!

As for my view, I would want my boyfriend to be faithful to me and only to me. As soon as he went and saw other girls, or guys--whatever the case may be, I dunno--he's out! I think I'd have a hard time dating someone who is bi, I don't know. I don't have anything against those who are...it's just a personal preference is all.

Post 24 by blink183 (I can't call it a day til I enter the zone BBS) on Thursday, 23-Feb-2006 16:02:35

I wouldn't have a problem if my woman was a lizbian.

Post 25 by ItsJustBabyT (the price is WRONG, bitch!) on Thursday, 23-Feb-2006 22:34:52

I wouldn't want my husband dating other women or men while I was in a relationship with him. I would never do a threesome. I feel that is is being unfaithful in the relationship, and I'm big on trust and loyalty.

Post 26 by Siriusly Severus (The ESTJ 1w9 3w4 6w7 The Taskmaste) on Wednesday, 17-Jun-2009 2:40:02

If the girl is not dating another girl and just being friends, fine, but if it's a lesbian romance while dating a guy is a no-no.